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Pada masa saya, kita hanya diminta membuat 1 lembar essay. Tapi pada tahun ini, saya lihat ada 2 essay yang diminta. Satu tentang pengalamanmu menghadapi tantangan dalam hidup dan satu lagi tentang kontribusi apa yang kamu berikan pada komunitas setelah mengikuti IATSS Forum.
Untuk batch 33 dan 34 temanya tentang How the family should educate and discipline its children at home? Sebenarnya lucu juga membaca essay yang saya tulis saat usia 27 tahun dan belum menikah. Siapa sangka, essay ini menjadi pegangan saya tanpa sadar saat mendidik anak-anak hingga sekarang.
Berikut essay 560 kata yang saya buat:
Reza is just an ‘ordinary’ 2nd grade high school student whose profile I found in a local newspaper in my town early last month. Reza passed a selection that made him Asia Student Representative sent to Japan. Previously, he was The Best Junior High School Student in his regency and The Best Senior High School Student in West Java. He joins actively in some extra-curricular activities in his high school. Story about Reza awakenend us in the middle of dominant news about student fight, drugs in school and teenage prostitution. Why – besides ‘disruptive element’ – are there still some kids like Reza? What is the family secret for having such kind of kid? From my daily experience, I conclude that there are 3 major things whic are the success secret. I’m going to explain to you below.
Firstly, education at early age to provide the children with faith, dicipline and good habits in their sub-consciousness. Psychologist agreed that children under 5 years old have extra ordinary brain in absorbing ability. In their elementary school age, let them practice little by little lesson that they have learnt with their peers and start their simple social lives but keep guiding them.
Secondly, in high school period – when they try to find their self-identities – let them make their own choice. Let them feel the impact of their decision. Don’t jump into a conclusion too soon to blame on and to make prejudice to their decision. Develop openness and warm communication among family members, so that the children are encouraged to be open with teir parents. My friend, Sasti, told me how she told her little secret – smoking with her friends – to her parents. Instead of being lectured about how inappropriate for a young girl to smoke, her parents just listened and made her comfortable to continue her story. She said she had never liked to smoke, not because it smelt but it made her cough as well. And then without any notice they – Sasti and her parents –were involved in a warm discussion about why there were still people who wanted to risk their health by smoking.
Lastly, parents should be a role model for their youngster. Parents are not required to be perfect but they are supposes to be the best parents for their kids. Children understand that nobody is perfect, but if they can get a good example it will be easier for them to follow rather than having parents who just yell and forbid without real practice. The Osbournes, an MTV series shows the real life of Ozzy Osbourne – Prince of the darkness, legendary rock star who must be close to the dark life of rock celebrities. In fact, in that touching series he can be agood gather and educate his children in awarm family atmosphere. Being role model is not only duty for parents but also for siblings. For instance, big sister should be ag good example for her little brother. Developing resposibility in children – not only for their own life but also for their sibling’s life – is a good way for their education.
In conclusion, I would like to say that the most important points for a family to educate and discipline its children at home are by providing early education, developing openness and warm communication, and being role model. Therefore, I believe that in future there will be more Rezas.
Karena bahasa Inggris saya pas-pasan, untuk mengisi formulir aplikasi ini saya banyak buka kamus dan minta bantuan proofreading dari teman-teman yang lebih jago berbahasa Inggris. Ehm, dan mau agak pamer sedikit, berdasarkan bisikan dari panitia, ternyata aplikasi saya termasuk yang terbaik tahun itu. Alhamdulillah.
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